As some of you know, I’m writing another book–a memoir about childhood, the women who hovered over me, and their soul-satisfying foods.
One of those wonderful women, my Aunt Wiese, died several months ago. Every time I talked to her in the months leading up to her departure, she asked how the book was coming. Said she wanted “to read the thing” before she left us.
I’m afraid I failed her. I never thought she’d die.
A few days ago, my mother, Coco, called. That was unusual. Even in this day of cell phones and unlimited minutes, Coco is reluctant to call long distance. She can’t quite believe she’s not going to have to pay something extra. “Must be 2,000 miles between here [Nashville] and Walla Walla,” she’ll say. “Gotta be some extra charge for that.”
Anyway, she called. Asked how things were at the farm. Wanted to know about Annie’s alpacas and the horses. “And how are the dogs doing?” she asked.
“Come on Coco,” I said. “What gives? You never call unless you’ve got something on your mind.”
“Well, I’m not the kind to stick my nose in where it’s not wanted,” she said. “And you know I’m not the pushy type. But I am interested.”
“So what is it, Mom?”
“Well, I’ve just been wondering…you know…not all the time, mind you…but occasionally wondering…”
“About what, Mom?”
“Well, about when that book is going to be finished. Beebe’s been asking about it. So has Irma. And of course I told ‘em it’d be done when it was ready to be done. But they’re wondering if you’ve got some estimate for us.”
Now Mom, we’ve talked about this…”
“I know. I know…”
I don’t rightly know when it’ll be finished. Most of it is in New York with the editor and…”
“Editor,” Coco snipped. “What do you mean, editor? You don’t need an editor. She’s not gonna try to change your writing, is she? You’re writing is excellent. Don’t you be letting some editor get her handprints all over it.”
“Mom,” I interrupted. “She’s helping me with the book because I asked her to and she’s got a lot of experience I don’t have. And she’ll tell me the truth. I can’t get anybody I know to tell me straight what they really think–what they like and don’t like. She won’t pull any punches.”
“You’re writing is fine, Sam. You don’t need any fancy New York editor to tell you anything. I’ve read your books. So have Irma and Beebe. They liked ‘em fine. So did Barbara.”
“Who’s Barbara?” I asked.
“My hairdresser. She liked ‘em too.”
“Coco,” I said. “I know that you and Beebe and Irma like my writing. And I’m delighted you do. But I don’t think you have the kind of objectivity my editor does.”
“Well, you listen here,” she said. “Your Aunt Wiese died without getting a chance to read the book.”
Now we were getting somewhere.
“And I know I’ve always said it takes the time it takes. But it’s taking a long time and I don’t know how much longer I’ve got. And what about Irma and Beebe?” Coco asked.
“Good point, Mom. I’ll try to move it along but a lot of this is out of my hands and whatever’s meant to be will be.”
“Well,” said Coco, a bit of resignation in her voice, “Don’t you be letting any fancy New York editor mess with your writing or slow you down. You’re writing is just fine.”
“I know, Mom. Thank you. I’ll do what I can. I promise.”
Thank goodness for moms.

My kindergarten cafeteria experience caused me to think back on my own childhood. Rummaging through some dusty files at the back of my brain, I remembered that I too ate onions at five years of age, but I only ate them one way—on cheese and onion sandwiches made by my mother, Coco.
Good story.
Well, lately I’ve been fiddling with this recipe for Italian Bread Soup, which is actually more like a casserole than a soup if you want my opinion. I cook it in my Lodge deep skillet. Folks rave about it. So, I sent Mark the recipe as a thank you for the cookbook. And it occurs to me that you might want to try it too.
Hi. My name’s Sam.